Many of you I'm sure have read my Christmas day comments about one frustrating 1/2 hour in an otherwise wonderful day.

That 1/2 hour has me stuck. That's what I want to talk / write about, but I don't want to be negative. I don't want to be angry, or hurt, or I don't even know what you call it.

Stumped. Yeah, let's go with stumped.

Somehow I have to get this out of my system so I'm going to try something. Hold on a minute...

What follows is a public message for Mom, Dad, Little Sister, niece, and nephew.

I love you. Really I do. I love you enough to let you go regardless of what that means because more than anything in this world I love my family, my wife and my girls. I stand by them 100% and I will not let anything in this world come between them and me. I will not let anything, not the largest, nor even the smallest thing - harm them.

I am all about family, my family.

The rest is just semantics. Who said what, when, where, why? It doesn't matter.

I will always do what is right for my family, and that is what I am doing. Nothing more, nothing less. There is no vendetta.There is no hidden cause. No brainwashing has occurred. There is only what can be seen. There is only what you taught me is right.

I promise I won't address this in my blog again, but I needed this forum today.

I appreciate the reader's patience. If you want to know more about the story, Netter has a very diplomatic, reader's digest version here.


Kimba The White Lioness said...

First and foremost, you must live true to your own self and your own set of morals and values - those practiced within the confines of your immediate family. You have to be happy with the person you see in the mirror at the end of the day, after all.

Unfortunately, we cannot "pick" our extended family members. We are basically just stuck with them - or not. We have similar issues in our own extended family (mostly my hubby's side, but mine can be a pain at times, too). With mine, they are respectful enough at my assertive hints and gestures while in my home. They do not want to cause a scene.

We no longer associate with some of my husband's family though, as they cannot be respectful. It's been 8 years since we've visited with his sister. There are times when I wonder if it all just got blown out of proportion - if we're all just being a bunch of stubborn butts... and if it wouldn't be worthwhile to TRY AGAIN... I mean, our children are growing up without knowing each other, we don't partake of the joys and sorrows in each others lives, etc. But then, we feel we are compromising our own principles if we are always the ONLY ones giving in all the time. So... the years roll on. I only hope it isn't pride (ours and theirs) that will cause us all to regret the choices we've made to not be involved, when it all comes to an end. I worry about stuff like that.

Good luck with handling your own familial situation, Jimbro!

Kiki B. (from NHLC and the Red Wings chat room)

Jim Brochowski said...


Truly appreciate that you took the time to comment and share. Really appreciate not just the comment on my blog, but also this particular piece.

Thank you!