There are 30 celebrities, 10 Brochowskis I don’t know, and 11 businesses or brands. There are 30 who I’ve never met, save for 2 phone calls, 30 I only know in passing, and 22 I’ve never met who are local who I’m making it my goal to try and meet soon. This leaves about 716 that I’ve met and know. I might have worked with them. I definitely have a memory of them, and I can probably identify their voice. Many I see on a daily, or at least weekly to monthly basis.
Of course I’m talking about my Facebook Friend list.
I heard a friend say that all this great technology was actually
ruining “real communication.” I of course balked at this. I love this
great technology. I think it has actually enhanced communication. In the interest of keeping the peace I didn’t argue with my friend.
Yesterday I noted that more than a few folks are “giving up Facebook for Lent,” so I shared this observation on my Timeline.
suppose it could just be me, but if you give up Facebook or some other
social network for Lent aren't you really just saying: ‘I don't value
those relationships so I'm okay with just blowing them off for 40
i.e. In other words, ergo and forsooth, I think giving up Facebook could ruin (at least some part of) communication.
But that’s just my opinion, which is why I posted that. I wanted to have the discussion that followed.
ranged from 100% agreement to Facebook is too new to establish cultural
norms to “Or is it saying because I value those relationships/form of
communication, I am willing to give up something valuable to me for God
I agree with every one of them.
Okay, no not really.
understand that there are many who see social networks like Facebook,
Twitter, and even blogs as nothing more than idle pursuits. Even folks
who participate in those mediums sometimes downplay them as being
nothing more than time wasters, stuff to do when there is nothing else
But that’s not me.
see social networks as valuable additions to those tools we already had
at our disposal for communication because to me it’s not about the
It’s about the people. Plain.And.Simple.
I’m not passing judgment on folks who have decided to give up Facebook
for Lent if they see that as a true sacrifice, if they just need a
break, if they are resolved to use other perhaps more personal forms of
communication to reach out to people in their lives. If they are trying
to strengthen their relationships I’m all for that, and I will allow
that my statement in passing doesn’t allow for their reasoning behind
their decisions, not that they owe anybody an explanation.
I wonder if we realize the true power of all these tools as we put them
to use every day. I wonder if we understand the implications of our
actions? Do we get that we might only know about what’s going on in each
other’s lives because of our social network, and how valuable just
knowing is to one friend, or another.
I might know, in person, at least 700 some odd people on my friend list
I am very aware that in all likelihood, without these tools I would not
have the contact, the interactions with many of them that I have now,
and I don’t believe for a second that would be a good thing. Not at all.
Don’t misunderstand -
I get that Facebook is “just Facebook,” and Twitter is “just Twitter,” etc... and so on...
value personal interaction more than any other form of communication.
I’d like to sit with all of you for hours, conversing deep into the
night holding a beverage in hand, wiping a tear, or sharing a laugh.
as we all know, that’s not possible. There just aren’t enough hours in
the day, or dollars in the bank account for the travel necessary to
bring us together.
I would never advocate for replacing a personal interaction, a letter,
an email, or even a phone call, (okay maybe a phone call - I do hate the
phone) I would hope that folks might realize and value the social
network communication that sometimes might have to suffice, and be
grateful for it rather than seeing it as a commodity that we can simply
Your Mileage May Vary.
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