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We Are All Good at Something
I once took my brother in law for a ride in the only new car I've ever owned. (Long time ago)
"What kind of engine does this have in it?" he asked.
I quickly replied: "A black one."
"Really," he said "How do you know?"
"Well because I opened the hood and looked and it's black." "Oh wait," I stopped myself. "It's a V6."
Laughing he replied: "How do you know that?"
"Because there's a sticker on the side that says V6, and I know that has something to do with engines."
I often tell this story at the end of the basic computing classics I teach when my students are telling me they still don’t think they can do it, or they feel inadequate, or they’re still clearly afraid, for lack of a better word.
I stop them and I ask them if they have something that they are good at. Of course, they always reply yes, and I tell them that everybody has something they are good at, something they can do better than other folks, and the reason is because they need to / want to do that, and in this day and age, they will probably need to or want to do something, eventually, that will require a computer and then they will have buy in.
I then tell the story above finishing by sharing with them then that once I started paying for auto repair I had a reason to know more about engines. Save for replacing a battery and basic things like wiper blades and tail lights I never did learn to repair cars, but I can tell the difference between when my alternator is going bad, and when my thermostat is stuck, and I know there’s no such thing as a “wobble shaft.” At least I think there’s no such thing as a wobble shaft. ;-)
In general, they get it, and they walk away smiling, feeling good about being good at something which hopefully will give them confidence to go on and learn new things, and improve themselves.
We all are good at something. Say it with me. Say it out loud.
I think, and I’m seeing a lot lately everybody spending so much time focusing on what they need to do, and what they can’t do, or don’t think they are capable of doing... and I wonder why instead of focusing on the can’t, they don’t focus on the “how can I learn?” or “Who do I know that can teach me / help me?”
We were all put here together for a reason.
You know, it’s just a thought.
Have a good weekend!
YMMV.
Of course I’m talking about my Facebook Friend list.
But why?
Sunday, I heard a friend say that all this great technology was actually ruining “real communication.” I of course balked at this. I love this great technology. I think it has actually enhanced communication. In the interest of keeping the peace I didn’t argue with my friend.
Yesterday I noted that more than a few folks are “giving up Facebook for Lent,” so I shared this observation on my Timeline.
“I suppose it could just be me, but if you give up Facebook or some other social network for Lent aren't you really just saying: ‘I don't value those relationships so I'm okay with just blowing them off for 40 days?’”
i.e. In other words, ergo and forsooth, I think giving up Facebook could ruin (at least some part of) communication.
But that’s just my opinion, which is why I posted that. I wanted to have the discussion that followed.
Responses ranged from 100% agreement to Facebook is too new to establish cultural norms to “Or is it saying because I value those relationships/form of communication, I am willing to give up something valuable to me for God for Lent?”
I agree with every one of them.
What?
Okay, no not really.
I understand that there are many who see social networks like Facebook, Twitter, and even blogs as nothing more than idle pursuits. Even folks who participate in those mediums sometimes downplay them as being nothing more than time wasters, stuff to do when there is nothing else to do.
But that’s not me.
I see social networks as valuable additions to those tools we already had at our disposal for communication because to me it’s not about the tools.
It’s about the people. Plain.And.Simple.
Now, I’m not passing judgment on folks who have decided to give up Facebook for Lent if they see that as a true sacrifice, if they just need a break, if they are resolved to use other perhaps more personal forms of communication to reach out to people in their lives. If they are trying to strengthen their relationships I’m all for that, and I will allow that my statement in passing doesn’t allow for their reasoning behind their decisions, not that they owe anybody an explanation.
But I wonder if we realize the true power of all these tools as we put them to use every day. I wonder if we understand the implications of our actions? Do we get that we might only know about what’s going on in each other’s lives because of our social network, and how valuable just knowing is to one friend, or another.
While I might know, in person, at least 700 some odd people on my friend list I am very aware that in all likelihood, without these tools I would not have the contact, the interactions with many of them that I have now, and I don’t believe for a second that would be a good thing. Not at all.
Don’t misunderstand -
I get that Facebook is “just Facebook,” and Twitter is “just Twitter,” etc... and so on...
I value personal interaction more than any other form of communication. I’d like to sit with all of you for hours, conversing deep into the night holding a beverage in hand, wiping a tear, or sharing a laugh.
Unfortunately, as we all know, that’s not possible. There just aren’t enough hours in the day, or dollars in the bank account for the travel necessary to bring us together.
While I would never advocate for replacing a personal interaction, a letter, an email, or even a phone call, (okay maybe a phone call - I do hate the phone) I would hope that folks might realize and value the social network communication that sometimes might have to suffice, and be grateful for it rather than seeing it as a commodity that we can simply cast aside.
Your Mileage May Vary.
Roh roh:
Jodi's named responsibility was Sponsorship and Business Development. She did much, much more. Without question, Jodi was "instrumental" to the program's success, and Jodi if you're reading...
On jobs and such...
If you cannot see the video, click here. While we're rolling. if you have an embarrassing story or online gaffe you'd like to share - fire away in the comments.
Okay, so the question not answered in the video is No, I did not get the job. It may have been because of the phone, but then again...
I just don't think so. For the record for any future potential employers coming by the blog, I LOVE - huh...
What too much?
Okay, Talking on the phone for business and talking to your Uncle whom you love dearly, (in case he's reading) but does not know how to talk on the phone and / or hang up are completely separate issues. Business very often needs to be face to face or voice to voice if you will, and I am absolutely okay with that interaction.
Oh, and here's the incriminating post in case you were curious.
Alright, before I call it a day and because I am talking about jobs I want to talk about something I have going on tomorrow that is pretty cool.
I am a member of the Communications and Satisfaction team for Tech Connect Ohio. This is a terrific program put together by Dan Harris with the assistance of Rocky VanBrimmer in only about 4 weeks I might add.
From the website: In an effort to support these, (Central Ohio technology driven) companies and advance Ohio' s tech initiatives, promote the jobs available and help experienced tech professionals, recent graduates, and interns find and secure these important positions TechConnect Ohio was created.
So really, how cool is that?
Jodi's named responsibility was Sponsorship and Business Development. She did much, much more. Without question, Jodi was "instrumental" to the program's success, and Jodi if you're reading... I am very sorry.
Major bonus that I get to be on that team!
I believe the term is SCORE!
Ahem, sorry... Yes, I am a little excited.
In case you're interested - here is a list of the companies involved.
FastSwitch - http://bit.ly/FastSwitchJobs
TDCI - http://bit.ly/TDCIJobs
Manta - http://bit.ly/MantaJobs
Halcyon Solutions - http://bit.ly/HalcyonJobs
Limited Brands - http://bit.ly/LimitedBrandJobs
Northwoods Consulting - http://bit.ly/NorthwoodsJobs
Oxford Consulting - http://bit.ly/OxfordJobs
Nationwide Insurance - http://bit.ly/NationwideJobs
Huntington Bank - http://bit.ly/HuntingtonJobs
Ecommerce Advanced Services http://bit.ly/ecommjobs
BMW Financial- http://bit.ly/BMWFinJobs
Thirty One Gifts - http://bit.ly/thirtyoneJobs
NetJets - http://bit.ly/NetJetJobs
Motorists Mutual Insurance - http://bit.ly/MotoristJobs
2Checkout - http://bit.ly/2checkoutJobs
I know I have some friends out there who are looking... If I don't see you tomorrow, I hope you at least get a chance to check out the list.
Enough
No, today I’m a little warm, a little hot around the edges, a little well, exasperated. No, actually I’m just a touch pissed off, and baby I’m here to rant.
I came into January this year with great intentions. I’m not a big resolution guy, but I’m also tired of seemingly always talking about and thinking about the same changes I need to make in my life. So, as January dawned on this year of our Lord 2011 I was pretty psyched to tackle some action items and make some real changes, some real adjustments, and... and...
It’s February 1st and I don’t feel like I have accomplished one damn thing, and I’ve only got one thing to say about it.
Ready?
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!!
Alright I almost feel better. Thank you.
Now, I’m not going to be deterred. I am going to stay on track I am going to make those major changes THIS YEAR! I will talk about all of them and about my assessment in the coming days. I will roll it all out there and keep working, but I had to take this pause, this moment. I just got back to some kind of normal yesterday and while I spent the day hunkered down, being comfy in my fav sweatshirt I also resolved that it would be the last day I would let weirdness even think about being in charge. I am in control, and I am tired of screwing around. Last night when I got home, I got back to work and I’m staying on that path.
I just need a couple things:
I need my dog to be healthy. He is the best, smartest, most communicative dog I have ever had. Hey Big Man upstairs or whoever is in charge - Mulligan didn’t do anything to you. If you are pissed at me, take it out on me, but please stop fucking with my dog. Can I say that? Well, I just did.
I need to stop being free.
From now on outside of my house there are only a handful of people who get free tech support from Jimmer’s computer shop. They are My Mother-In-Law, My good friend’s parents who are a lot like my parents and / or have at least shared and taught me that much, and my nephew because he listens to what I tell him about his computer and doesn’t say “Can you help me fix this? You’re doing it wrong.” Everybody else, pony up. No more free. No more 12 packs paying for 2+ years of tech support, no more of me making time during the middle of the week when I am busy as hell and then having the shit break the next flipping day anyway, and then when I say “what happened?” you go “I don’t know.” I can’t work with that. The computer just didn’t suddenly start or stop doing something. You want to use the Force when you’re using your computer that’s fine. I am not Obi Wan Kenobi and you are not Luke fuckin Skywalker. You want me to help you? Pony up! Somewhere between $70 and $150 bucks an hour depending how bad you broke that shit. Not my problem. Sorry. You need another solution - Go find Yoda and see if his ass might be available.
Speaking, (pun intended) of not being free - I’m somehow, (happily) booked into 3 speaking gigs this spring and while I appreciate the opportunity and love to speak with an audience I also think these will be the last 3 that are free. These folks gave me my chance(s) and got me going so I’m not going to change up now and charge them or be anything but grateful to them for letting me come speak, but - I’m not giving anymore away after this. I don’t know how much it will cost, probably more than tech help but less than a family of 4’s monthly grocery bill. Building talks takes time and resources that I just don’t have to give away anymore. I love that folks value my experience and abilities. I just can’t keep giving things away. Is that selfish? Probably.
Sorry.
If I may, I do have a couple more. Hey, I said it was a rant.
Here we go...
Stop mailing me shit I didn’t ask for. I don’t just toss. If you sent it to me I am foolish enough to think it might have some value. Of course I’m finding out most of it doesn’t have any value at all and it is pissing me off.
As such, I’ve got new mail rules.
If I owe you - mail me. If I know you - mail me. If you owe me - mail me. If you want to play, (MJB related) mail me.
Everybody else - Knock that shit off.
Politicians - don’t send me a list of crap you think you did or you think the other guy didn’t. I read the news everyday - pretend I’m Missouri and show me. Thanks.
Advertisers - You want to sell me your stuff? I am plugged in probably 15 - 20 hours a day. Go where I am. Wow me! Be newsworthy. You can pretend I’m Missouri too. Just get the hell out of my mailbox.
And while I’m at it - stay off my phone. Don’t call me unless you absofuckinglutely have to. I HATE the phone. 5 email accounts feed into my Blackberry - use one of ‘em. Text me. Let me know you want to get together and talk in person, maybe over a beverage - I’m in. Don’t call me to talk on the damn phone. While you’re figuring out how to say goodbye - most of us have accomplished at least 6 or 7 other meaningful things.
I like to talk to one person on the phone. I married her.
Don’t misunderstand. I love people. I just hate the damn phone.
Finally, I’ve got one that’s kinda work related.
If I’m helping somebody else, Wait.Your.Fuckin’Turn. My name is not “Excuse me.” You are not more important than the person I am helping. You are just being rude. Knock.It.Off!
Whew!
As I read those above paragraphs a part of me is proud and a part of me is appalled, but here’s the thing - at some point you have to worry about taking care of you. My family and I sacrifice a ton of time together. I sacrifice a lot of free time to do things for people for free and I just can’t do that anymore.
It’s not really about money. It is however about feeling valued, about feeling like more than just “a nice guy.” Hell, I’ll admit it; it’s about feeling some sense of self worth.
Probably all very selfish, but yeah I feel better. I’m tired of treading water and always saying I’m gonna. I’m tired of wasting time. I need to find out if there is something else, if there is something more. I need to actually accomplish something before it’s too late, and I need some time to do it.
Fair enough?
Seems like its about damn time doesn’t it?
Or did the rant just piss you off? Be honest. I can take it.
Pay Attention Daddy!
If you can't see the video. Click here.
Sometimes things are difficult. Sometimes things are messy. Sometimes things are complicated. Sometimes we have to find ways to deal with difficult situations, and sometimes things are just flat out ridiculous, and all we can do is laugh.
But, we have to find a way to work through them.
Don't you think?
Or is it easier to say: "I don't know how."
That's not very self reliant, and it's not very productive.
When I was a kid and I needed to learn how to do something my Dad would very often point me in the right direction, but not always realize that sometimes folks like me need detailed instructions.
He would say: "Pay attention. It doesn't cost anything."
(It took me a long time to figure out what, exactly that meant, but when I did it served me well. Though - a note here to the fellas. Do not say "Pay attention. It doesn't cost anything" to your wife or significant other - EVER! You're welcome.)
While my Dad saying this could be frustrating and create a bit of a learning curve that didn't necessarily need to exist, it did help me become very detail oriented, it helped me learn to pay attention, it made me read signs, it made me read the directions, it helps me quite frankly to be able to read people.
Of course, I don't do all of these things all the time, but I am able to recognize when I need to revert back to these methodologies to get something done correctly.
Recently, I had one of these moments.
D needed to print something, but the printer was out of color ink. So, like my Dad might have done I told D to pull out the tray the printer sits on and open it up.
The problem being that she had never opened up the printer before, and I hadn't told her what "it" was...
"It's right there," I said. "Open it up! What do you think you need to do?"
A very confused D just stared at me. Netter rushed in to help D deal with me and the problem.
So I asked Netter: "Am I a bad Dad."
"You're not a bad Dad," she replied. "You just suck at home tech support."
Ouch!
Well, as tech support is essentially what I do for a living I needed to figure this out. What could I do differently next time?
Clearly, I needed to get back to my methods. So, I sought out D and apologized for not providing enough guidance and specific instruction. I told her I was sorry I had not read her reaction well enough, and I encouraged her to stop me next time and ask me for steps. I told her I would tell her sister to do the same so we were all on the same page.
The next day I found K and explained to her what had happened. I told her I'd clearly had a "Poppa moment," God love him and that while I had learned to learn from him and his gruff yet effective style I did not expect my girls to have to do the same.
"What would Poppa do to you?" K asked.
I could think of no specific example, but some 20 year old flashes ran through my brain and I came up with the following scenario.
"Well," I replied "Poppa liked to watch Star Trek, but when I needed help with my math homework he would come into the kitchen to help me go over a few steps and then tell me to get to it while he got back to watching the show.
It was all I could do not to yell out, Darn it Dad! Captain Kirk is gonna sleep with the Blue B****. That's how it ends. Now Get back in here and help me with my math homework."
What's that?
Yes, I said that out loud to my daughter, who of course then repeated it to her younger sister and all the while Netter was asking me if she could tweet that or Facebook it or something so everyone could laugh as hard as we were laughing.
I have no idea where that came from, but I'm glad I have teenagers who are old enough to know that I was really just trying to show them that I am human, I make mistakes and I understand so all they need to do is ask and I will listen and try and help.
As I told a buddy last night: "I think being a kid, being a teenager is one of the hardest things any of us ever has to do in this lifetime. If I can do something to help make it easier for my kids, as long as they cooperate and work with me, then I'm gonna do it."
Parents - what do you think?
*A final note for the Star Trek fans. I know Captain Kirk's fantasy woman is green. For some reason I thought blue. Phase me!
I.Am.Tired!
FYI - Today's post is a little Monday rant. I'll understand if you don't want to hang around today. If you do, maybe you can relate or commiserate?
I'm writing this as a way of building toward a to-do list of sorts so maybe you can relate to that too?
I haven't blogged in a while. I feel like I've blown a great opportunity to grab some new readers and connect with new folks. Maybe not. I hope not. As usual I may be thinking too much. (A big thank you to Nate Riggs for that by the way. I feel very fortunate to have had that opportunity.)
More upside? After today's rant post - I promise a blog post on every topic I bring up today as part of my rant. Well, at least the ones I think might make a good story.
You see, once again here it is Monday morning and I find myself behind. Behind on replying to messages, behind on replying to emails, behind on - well still behind on things from before Golf for Joy, and many, many more...
Sometimes it seems like I spend my entire life catching up, and the cycle continues on and on.
If I do get time to focus on something, it seems something ALWAYS takes my attention elsewhere. Granted, that's not always a bad thing, like when I became obsessed with the television show Bones and wanted to see all the re-runs I could before the season premiere. More often, however it's because I have to tend to something silly.
Like the Blackberry fiasco. (That might even be two blog posts.)
It will especially turn into two posts if I talk about being tired of poor customer service, but that might be a post all by itself.
Or a broken T.V.
Or any number of things that just seem to pop up out of nowhere, and turn into hours and hours of time suckers.
Like Vista and connectivity issues - no Mom it's not just your computer...
Like tires for my truck.
Paying bills and juggling cash. I'm tired of playing by the rules they, (i.e. banks and mortgage companies and such) put in place and then having them change the rules, seemingly on a whim. (I know it's the economy, but this is a rant remember...)
So, I have to find a turning point, a positive if you will.
One positive is that part of the reason I am behind is the presentation I was fortunate enough to be able to give at Job Help Day at the Library last week.
Another is that I got to spend the day Saturday playing golf with my friends and enjoying college football for the balance of the evening.
Okay, we do watch college football every week, but the golf was a nice bonus. Though I actually played very poorly, and we started the round in the rain, I was still happy to get out.
There's just something about being on the course with your friends, watching one of them shoot his best round ever, obviously happy as heck about it - and you can see the joy in his face.
Good job Dave!
I've got to get back to the to do list now...
What are you all working on?
Or - if you want - tell me what you're tired of...
OneWebDay
I do want to take a minute to highlight something, especially for my Columbus audience that I think is very important, and really one of the best ideas I've ever seen.
If you haven't already, head over to Shiny Door and check out the details OneWebDay.
I've talked before about the importance of technology, not just that it's become such a integral part of our society, but that so many lack access, lack knowledge, and don't have anyone to teach them how as it were.
Every day at the library I talk to at least one person who has to accomplish some task, whether searching for housing, signing up for an email account, applying for a job, creating a resume, or even applying for unemployment or other government assistance. All of these things are made that much more difficult when "you just don't know how."
Now, a lot of times when you just don't know how, you can just not do it. (Like my math homework in high school, but that's another story.) But you just can't "not do," things like those listed above because things like housing and jobs are pretty darned important aren't they?
To even take this to the next level - What if these folks could create a network for themselves using Facebook, LinkedIn or Twitter - how much better would quality of life be for them. How much more included and most especially valued would they feel if they just knew how?
Take a big breath there and think about that for a second. What would your life be like without technology? Or how about without the Internet?
Yeah, I feel that way too. Very, very fortunate indeed.
Many folks are not so fortunate, Too many are just plain getting left behind, and frankly Scarlett that just stinks.
Well, I give a damn. I know you do too, and as fate would have it, we are not alone.
From the Wiki:
This
year, OneWebDay focuses on the importance of access to fast, affordable, open Internet for all people, otherwise known as digital inclusion. OneWebDay Columbus has planned an array of activities around the idea of digital inclusion, including classes and seminars, technology refurbishment and more. At OneWebDay Columbus participants will have a variety of opportunities to both volunteer (example - refurbish computers) and learn (example - Legalities of Open Source Software workshop). If you cannot spend time at our event but still want to be a part of this worldwide day of web celebration, please consider donating computer components no longer in use. We will be using them to teach the refurbishing and recycling. Our experts can take old slow computers and turn them into useful tools again.
For more information on Columbus OneWebDay join us at http://my.onewebday.org/group/cbusowd and help make it One Web. For All.
In the end, it's all about access. We have it. Too many others don't.
OneWebDay brings us together so that everybody is included, so that everyone has access, so that everyone has an opportunity to learn how.
I am trying to clear my schedule to participate. I will definitely be donating some computer components.
Maybe you can help out too?
We're all in this together after all.
Twitter - Ur Doin' it wrong, or am I
When I first used Twitter I'm not sure I knew exactly what it was. What I did know was that it was helping to create or maybe even re-create a community. This is a community in which I've become quite active. It's a community I like to protect.
This is how my Twitter feud, (Twued?) started.
I noted one day that one of the folks I was following, (because he had followed me, but that's another discussion entirely) was posting the same information over and over and over. "Read my blog post here. Read my blog post there. Read my blog posts everywhere. Hey, you didn't read my blog posts yet. Read my blog post here. Read my blog post there. Read my blog posts everywhere..." ad-infinitum.
I also noted that he had almost no @replies in his tweet stream. I tried to interact with him. He answered me hours later, (I am not exaggerating) despite the fact that he continued to promote his blog posts.
I call folks like him, broadcasters.
While I think it's cool when folks share their blog posts on Twitter and I do it myself. I don't like to feel like their content is being shoved down my throat like a commercial, and when I interact with them, and know that they are still on as it were I don't like to feel like I'm in line for help with tech support.
If someone wants to share something and posts it a few times in a day to make sure all of their followers see it, that's one thing. To post it hourly or more - to me is just overkill.
The whole idea of social media is right there in the title - social.
So I sent this gentleman a direct message. I thought I was very polite.
"No offense, if I unfollow, but you tweet the same things over & over & you're not very interactive.Just have different purposes here I guess"
He replied, (almost two hours later) with back to back messages -
"...........no offense Jim........i have a global audience so i try 2 accomodate all time zones......i will reduce my tweets ............and hopefully i won't have ppl asking where my content is............i will try : )"
I thought that sounded kinda egotistical, but hey we all have egos so I thought, "Well that's cool. I'll give it a chance."
I even replied to one of his tweets about his blog post on how to fix the shanks, (golf term). I paraphrased a line from the movie Tin Cup which I'm fairly certain most golfers have seen. Apparently, though he blogged about golf regularly he had not.
I didn't understand that, but I didn't hold it against him.
His tweet stream was lively with @replies for about a day. He cut his broadcasting to about half for about the same amount of time. That didn't last long though and after awhile he was right back to it.
A few days later I decided his content was clogging up my tweet stream enough so I sent him a message and unfollowed him. I'm not the social media police, and I realize that we all come to these tools with different purposes so I tried again, to remain polite.
"Thanks for trying. I'm going to leave it at that. Different purposes here. Take care."
Shortly thereafter, he unfollowed me. End of story right? Eh, not so fast.
Two days ago, he started following me again. This started this exchange.
Me: Following you just long enough to figure out why you are following me again. Some kind of "autofollow" tool?
Him: ..........yea i think so............but am not sure : )
Me: You're not sure if you use an autofollow tool? Really?
Him: ......Jim.....i've got a lot going on....if ur not interested in my tweets......just unfollow...it's just that simple : )
Me: I think people like you destroy social media. Nothing more than broadcasters, a detriment to the community & you know jack about golf.
When I had posted that reply I unfollowed him, and blocked him. How can you be so detached from these tools that you aren't even sure how you are connecting?
Within the hour he was following me again. No, I am not kidding. At this point - I was definitely finished with him, didn't want to engage in any further debate. I had expressed my opinion. He had shown his indifference. Whatever he was back for couldn't have been good.
In my regular tweet stream I said this:
@Him Not sure what your agenda is, but I'd really rather you stopped following me. Sooner rather than later would be nice. Thanks.
I have to say I'm coming away from this whole experience with some disappointment. I have discussed this with other Twitter users who I think "get it."
Twitter and all of these social media tools are used, and can be effective in a number of ways, but one thing I think we might all agree on is that social is the key word here. It's about building the community. It's about building relationships.
I was discussing this with RickWDavies on Twitter last week and he gave a fair assessment when he said
"I can send news, chat, make friends or even make sales with my social media accounts. I especially enjoy the chat (like ours)."
I thought that was pretty good, but my friend SethSimonds said something even better today.
"To me, a "follow" on twitter is an agreement to walk down the same street and genuinely smile when you look my way."
I've always liked Seth's take on Twitter. He puts so much emphasis on relationships in fact that he once unfollowed 45,000 folks so that he could reassess and make his follows count for something.
I couldn't agree more.
What do you think?
Define Free
Last month a friend took me to see a hockey game between the Columbus Blue Jackets and the Calgary Flames. As we entered the arena a woman with a clipboard was waiting to see if we wanted to sign up to win a "prize," including maybe a vacation / cruise.
Well, Netter and I haven't been on a "real vacation," let alone a cruise in quite some time so I thought - sure I'll sign up.
My friend and I talked about it as we walked away.
We thought if we did "win a prize," we'd win the lowest prize on the rung.
We knew that there was probably some "come listen to our presentation" gimmick involved in actually claiming the prize.
We both agreed that the only way we would go listen is if we won the cruise.
We then enjoyed the CBJ's 5-0 trouncing of the Flames and I forgot all about the prize.
Fast forward to just 2 weeks ago. (Did that sound funny?) Our home phone rings, and for some unknown reason I decide to answer it.
We've been talking about losing the home phone for quite sometime now. We all have cell phones, and take the larger majority of our calls on that mobile device. Initially we had kept the land line because we had a DSL connection. Recently however, we had switched to cable, (Anybody need a DSL modem?) and I have been trying to track down all the places that have our home number to change that contact information. I'd say we're about 95% of the way to having that accomplished and getting rid of the home phone altogether.
Oh, I forgot to mention what may be the most important reason we want to lose the home phone. You ready for this?
Telemarketers
Since we have started changing over our contact info just about every time the home phone rings we know it is probably a telemarketer.
And still I answered it.
Me: Hello
Caller (April) : "Hi this is April from Sundance Vacations." (I considered putting a link there, but don't want to give them the traffic.) Is this James?
Me: It is, and I am not interested.
April: Don't you want to know what you're not interested in.
Me: Trying to be nice here.
April: Well you signed up for this.
Me: Okay, tell me what I signed up for.
April then went on to relate to me that I had signed up at the hockey game, gave me the date of the hockey game, included the score of the game and said that for an hour of my time I was "guaranteed a cruise."
I repeated what she said verbatim, and my very alert wife said - "What about airfare to get where the cruise is leaving from?"
Of course, I repeated the question for April. She informed me that they had a limited number of airfares available, but that if I could come before Saturday they would have airfare for me. It was already Thursday evening. We had an activity of some sort on Friday and I worked on Saturday.
As nicely as I could I told April that I really appreciated the call and her patience, but we just weren't interested and to please give the prize to someone who either had a free schedule at a moments notice or could afford the airfare. I hung up.
About a week later there was a message on the chalkboard in our kitchen - from April.
What the heck?
The next day I called Sundance Vacations and explained to Mandy, who took the call because April was on another line, that we were not interested, could not afford the airfare, etc... and so on.
Mandy said - Oh we have airfare. We have everything. I don't know why April told you we didn't. We just need an hour of your time.
Intrigued I said "Really, airfare and everything?"
Mandy answered in the affirmative. I told her I would have to check my schedule, (i.e. run this by Netter) and I might just call her back.
Then right before she hung up Mandy said, Okay, that's a cruise for two, and airfare. All you would be responsible for is taxes.
AH HAH! I knew it. I just started to laugh. Free my Eye! (Okay, I didn't say Eye, but this is a family blog.)
I didn't go off on Mandy like I wanted to. I couldn't. I was laughing too hard. Instead I just said goodbye and hung up the phone. My might call had obviously just turned into I'm not calling, though I did share the story with Netter when I got home and we had a good laugh.
You'll never believe what happened next.
No Really.
Yep, they called back. Unfortunately for them, they called right before the Red Wings' playoff game yesterday evening - like in the last 30 seconds before I was going to answer any phone for the next 2.5 hours.
"Hi we're calling from Sundance Vacations..."
I couldn't help it. I cut them off totally saying - pretty loudly actually.
When are you people going to get it? We don't want your prize. We can't afford the prize. We can't afford the taxes. It's not free and you know it. Please take us off your list and stop calling us NOW!
I wonder if they got it?
I get that it's really my fault for even signing up in the first place, but still very frustrating, very frustrating indeed.
The "Gift" of Technology
So it is that I am able to come to work each day, or sometimes even go home at night, or to my in-laws, or to a friends, a poker game, to see the baker, the banker, and the cabinet maker and feel valued. (Okay, maybe those last three were a bit of a stretch.)
"Computer guys" or "Tech-Geeks," as we have been known to tag ourselves, do sometimes get together and commiserate (WOTD yesterday) about how it would be nice to just once go someplace and not talk tech, but secretly I think we, at least I, kind of like it that we are often asked for an opinion or a fix (not that kind of fix), or for just some time to look at something that has gone awry.
Lately though I haven't been offering many opinions, or providing many fixes, at least not in the regular sense.
Ordinarily folks who ask me questions need tweaks, tips, tricks and such - They need solutions that aren't obvious to everyone.
The folks I've been helping the most lately - For them just knowing how to use a computer is their solution, and maybe their salvation.
As you know if you are a regular follower (Thank you), or may not know if you are not (Welcome), the library where I work began this year to offer Job Help Centers to folks who need help finding and applying for jobs.
Now, I've been an on and off job hunter for the last 7-8 years since I got my degree in 2001. I've been working on career paths, resumes and the like for most of the last 10-11 or since I had to become our resume software expert when I came to work in the Main Library Media Center in 1998.
If you need to know about WinWay Resume, I'm your man. If you want to use the resume templates provided by Microsoft, you're on your own. But I digress.
Alright, so where are you going with this Jimmer?
Well I'll tell you...
Since diving into the job search effort with a new verve, and a sense of urgency as opposed to just dabbling along the way - I have learned something very important.
Finding a job is a DAMNED hard thing to do.
Every application is online, they are all different, and sometimes pretty darn long. Additionally almost all assume a certain computer knowledge level regardless of the job one is applying for.
"Want to work in Environmental Services (or just clean things), please upload your resume here:"
Never mind that you will most likely never touch a computer again in your time of employment with that company.
And it's not just employers or even the job sites:
Care to collect unemployment?
Well, we realize you're 60+ years old and have never used anything more technical than your television remote, but you've just been laid off from the job you thought you'd retire from and to get any money? Well, welcome to the online world.
Don't have email?
Sorry - that's required.
Oh, you can do it the old fashioned way - there is a toll free number. Be sure to pack a lunch, and dinner, and maybe even the next day's breakfast - Yes, you might be on hold that long.
Yep. Computers are a huge part of the employment world, and something all too many of us take for granted.
I've told many funny stories over the years about customers who thought: "You Have Performed An Illegal Operation" meant the police were coming to their house; or those that swore up and down their keyboard was broken until I showed them "NumLock;" and even my favorite about the gentleman who looked me square in the eye and said:
"I ain't no computer savage Jim!"
Those were all funny and timely, but alternatives still existed and the learning curve for all of us was a little bit more forgiving.
Those aren't the times we are in now. It's not funny now. It's a little more real - for all of us.
So next time you sit down at your keyboard and bring up The Life of Jimmer, or login to Facebook, or Twitter, or calmly sort through your pages upon pages of email - consider that there is somebody out there who lacks that knowledge, lacks that access.
Take a moment to consider what that might mean, and how fortunate we all really are.
Hey, I never said I'd never preach, but I do invite you to make the comment section your pulpit if you'd like to share your thoughts on the rampant rise of technology.
Friday Feature 2 The Team The Team The Team
In the spring of 2003 after the Iraq invasion had begun a number of people asked me what I thought of the president "sending our boys over there."
My reply each and every time was exactly the same. It doesn't matter how I feel about it, those are our boys, American boys and I stand behind them 100% no matter what.
America, the land of the free, the home of the brave and sometimes - a house, a team divided.
As I wrote in this space in November - we cannot afford such division, now or at any other time for that matter.
Our country is supposed to be the most powerful, the most respected, and perhaps most importantly - the most united.
This is how we will succeed. This is how any team succeeds.
They play hard and they play united.
The dictionary defines team as "a group on one side."
I have a funny feeling that the inauguration tomorrow and other activities from the week are going to put us to the test when it comes to America being the group on one side.
Why you may ask?
Well for starters there are the same old tired political differences. Republicans vs Democrats or Liberals vs. Conservatives or whatever labels you may choose.
I remarked to a colleague yesterday that I did not remember the inauguration and the accompanying celebration lasting all that long i.e. starting before and ending after the actual inauguration date. (Hey, the last one was a long time ago. Sue me.) My colleague got a little defensive which was understandable considering she had been flamed earlier in the day for celebrating the day's activities.
As she later told me - I love the pageantry and tradition of inauguration. It really is so very American ;o) of course better if your guy wins ;o)
We're supposed to celebrate our victories. The Giants had a parade when they won the Super Bowl. The Red Wings had a parade when they won Lord Stanley's Cup.
So yeah, her guy won and that made her happy, but that wasn't the "only" reason she was enjoying the day.
There is a question of technology. Do you think the president needs his Blackberry? How 'bout a laptop in the Oval Office?
Finally, there is the matter of race.
Yes, I said it. Why wouldn't I? It is important.
Barack Obama is our nation's first black president. It should be duly noted. It should be celebrated. It should be marked in time so that no one could ever forget.
Racism exists. You may not see it everyday. I don't see it everyday, but it does exist. For that matter so does reverse racism.
This ugly topic and all that go with it cannot be forgotten, nor should they be.
However, these things cannot be our focus, and I pray that those who predict that it will be are wrong.
Our focus has to be on America, on making our team united.
We need to seize the opportunity that new leadership affords us and use it as a time for change, a time for growth, and a time to come together as one team.
Therein lies our success.
So I am calling on my countrymen and countrywomen - regardless of your political affiliation, the color of your skin, your age, or your creed to remember this week that more than anything else you are an American.
To break it down to the simplest terms I'll borrow a phrase from a classic American moment and movie:
When you pull on that jersey, the name on the front is a hell of alot more important than the one on the back.
The front of that jersey says USA.
Please note - This post is not intended to support anyone's side. If you read it that way, I suggest you read it again. I don't believe in sides. I believe in purple.
Saving A Beautiful Day
And then I almost infected my computer with the dreaded Koobface Facebook video virus. I'll spare you the details, but suffice it to say my day got a little shaky.
To put myself back on track - I'm borrowing from my friend Cat just one more time and sharing three beautiful things about today.
1. In the incredibly simple category, we have a quiet, peaceful home with nice clean sidewalks and driveway.
2. Moving into territory that is slightly more fancy. For dinner this evening we had homemade spaghetti. I don't make my own pasta or grow my own vegetables, but I also don't serve spaghetti from a jar. My ladies were all thrilled to have this homemade dish, but only D would jump in front of the camera for me.
Cooking is something I've always enjoyed doing. I also make a mean cheesecake according to Mrs. B. I use my Mom's spaghetti recipe, and I have to give a shout out to former CML and Hilltop staff member Carol Dickerson for the cheesecake. One of my running jokes is that the cheesecake was my "hook" for picking up the ladies. Netter tells me that if I want to keep my lady, I better be making that cheesecake a little more regularly.
3. Speaking of Netter - My lovely wife provides today's biggest highlight with our Christmas decorations including our tree.
Netter pulled out a full 21 boxes of decorations today turning our house into a Christmas wonderland. I'm hoping to shoot some video to capture the entirety of it all, but for today we'll just share the tree.
In the spirit of the season, knowing I won't possibly be fortunate enough to see all of my friends and family, or the casual reader - I'd like to take this opportunity to extend my heartfelt wishes for a beautiful holiday for you and yours. May you know the joy, (saving that word for a special day) of this blessed season and enjoy a prosperous, healthy, and happy New Year.
There now, that feels better doesn't it.
RTFM Jim?
I broke them all.
As a result, I got to spend the last 13 hours of my Thanksgiving weekend, and 2 more last night rebuilding my PC.
Tech troubleshooting and training is what I do. I enjoy the customer service side of my position, but the real nitty gritty, the core of what I do would be tech troubleshooting and training.
Could have used myself this weekend…
It started with what I thought was a balky jump drive earned from completing the Learn & Play at CML. But as soon as I'd sent a note to L&P telling them about the drive I started to determine that the real issue at hand wasn't the drive, but my PC.
(So Thanks L&P for the generous offer of a new drive, but this one should be fine.)
Now, I'm not gonna break down the entire list of technical issues I was facing in this space today, but I do want to share with the reader the importance of one very big element when troubleshooting PC problems.
You ready?
This one is big.
One of my most profound discoveries ever, ever, ever...
Here 'tis.
PATIENCE!
That's right. Plain ole common sense patience would have saved me hours of work. I always stress to my users at the Library - read the directions, follow along, don't get ahead of yourself, follow the steps, and most importantly - Be patient.
But for myself –
Oh no, I'm the expert. I will make it work. It will work because I want it to. Seriously, the last thing I said to the computer when I turned it off due to lack of response was, "I win."
To which the computer replied upon reboot - "Wanna bet? You needed those files you just corrupted by deleting in bits and pieces Jim. Who wins now fool?"
Sigh, if I had just taken time to read the fine manual, (RTFM) or gone out to the help forums, but oh no...
Have a mirror much Jimmer?
As computer meltdowns go this could have been much worse. I only really lost a (long) day.
Fortunately, I back-up fairly regularly. A week spent re-entering an entire year of Quicken transactions many years ago has made me more than a fair to middlin' "backer upper."
Some things do get lost in the shuffle - like scanner drivers. If you follow me on Twitter or Facebook you know the tale.
Making that scanner work again was quite the adventure. With Netter right in the middle of a giant scanning project I was more than a little anxious about restoring functionality. I was finally able to accomplish this yesterday evening.
Sometimes recent updates get lost as well - i.e. all those CD's I put into iTunes just last week. Poof. Thankfully those CD's are all still right there in the cabinet where I left them.
Ah well lesson learned... Maybe. ;-)
If you're interested I took this opportunity to create a checklist for restoring your computer.
Here it is; Jimmer's recipe to a perfect PC – Obviously Software may vary –
Install Windows, Download AVG Free, Firefox, Adobe Reader, Adobe Flash, Install necessary drivers - that I should have backed up previously, (In my case sound, scanner, printers, and copier), Roxio, (or Nero, or whatever CD/DVD burning software you use) Webcam, Office, (although I toyed with trying to get by with just Google docs for awhile) Quicken, Photoshop, iTunes. Download available updates as necessary as you are working.
Replace personal files that you also back-up on a regular basis. Right?
One month - Today - I am just thankful
I thought a lot about whether I wanted to talk about this one month, what I might say, what I might reflect on. I have been 40 years old for one month today. Would I say or do anything at all?
Well, I've never been good at keeping my mouth shut and I do like to share, so:
To begin, I have the most amazing friends. Upwards of 30 or more showed up at my mini-shindig, celebration at Buffalo Wild Wings the Friday before my birthday, and that many more shared their good wishes with me during the week(s) that followed. It was an incredibly euphoric high that I'm not sure I've yet gotten over. Thank you to again to everybody.
Of course I also have a wonderful family, and we shared a great day on my birthday. Let me tell you about it.
We decided to go to Easton to hang out, do a little window shopping, walk around and use the gift certificate we had for The Cheesecake Factory for my birthday dinner. I don't generally do the "mall scene" anymore as I prefer the reasonable prices of Wal*Mart and The Thrift Store for my shopping needs.
Being a total geek, the first store we headed for at Easton was a no-brainer if ever there was one. The Apple Store called to me, and I spent a 1/2 hour or so wandering around the store checking out the latest and greatest in Macintosh technology.

Despite the fact that the only Mac I still own is about 10 years old, I am still a huge fan. Netter of course knows this, so she spent some time convincing me to buy the iPod she saw me look at more than once - Okay I plugged it in and listened to almost two full songs before leaving to "think about it."
I embarrassed both girls by going into Pink to see what all the fuss was about. Yeah, I get it.
No, not my child.
Then we went to a store called Whetseal, or Wet Seal aka Who the heck thought it was a good idea to sell these kinds of clothes to teenage girls?
Oh, and I propose a new law - teenage girls should wear flats, long skirts, and let's not forget good old fashioned "Granny Panties."
Doesn't a thong create a wedgie by definition? Aren't wedgies supposed to be bad? Who can explain to me why teenage girls have this infatuation with having wedgies?
Whew!
We stopped into a few other stores, grabbed a coffee at Cup O' Joe's, snapped some pictures of this train for my friend Steve
then visited Barnes and Noble, the biggest book store I've ever seen.We ate as much as we could, and took home more than one doggie bag.
We finished up with a ride home rockin' out to my fav album. It was a great day!
What a lucky guy I am!
Most of you know I did finally buy the iPod, a red Nano. After so many years of listening to talk radio I was amazed at the emotion I felt as each song played in my ears. So many vivid memories, another part of myself I had lost. Who knew?!?
It certainly has been a year of discovery. That's for sure.
Where to next?
I have to admit I don't know. The uncertain economy has all of us a little on edge, some more than others. I know I am looking at our Christmas budget, and 2009 numbers and probably inciting a little bit of panic at my house.
Sorry ladies, it's just how Daddy gets sometimes.
Still, as I've written before there is so much I still feel I'm gonna, or at least wanna do, so many places I wanna go, so many things I know my family would like, things I would like for my family. (No, I'm not just talking about stuff or things.)
I hope that my family knows this, but I have to admit to the reader that I put it in print today so that all of my ladies are sure to know I am aware.
Sometimes, as I'm sure many do, I just feel strapped in by the financial day to day.
Here's hoping that while today, tomorrow, and every day we all take the time to be thankful for that which we have, we might continue to be able to move forward, and enjoy what the future may hold.
Meet Jimmer
- Jim Brochowski
- Daddy, Honey, Coach, Captain. I have an awesome wife and three wonderful daughters. Hockey player, golfer, aspiring writer. Retired from the library after 30 years of public service. My daughters let me think I run the MJB Foundation. I am the Captain of Brian's Bail Bonds Hockey - a position I feel privileged to hold even if it does only mean I make the lines 12 seconds before each game - That's not 15 mind you, but 12 exactly. I enjoy a good conversation with family and friends. I'd like to think I'm "Fiercely" (thanks Christian) loyal. I give when I have and I hold on when I don't. My family is everything to me.
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